Talk:Emotional affair

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This page's tone, particularly in the opening (i.e, "They can be wonderful and life changing experiences. They are the stuff of great stories that teeter on the edge of consumation.") is neither neutral nor very formal. Links should also be modified (many still have an underscore between words). This article should include citations and focus more on statistics and studies. A section on incidence in literature/pop culture might be relevant, too.

Emotional affairs often involve deep friendship and intimacy as well as sexuality, which can lead to real problems if they cause another relationship to form. Tracing and proving this sort of infidelity can be extremely difficult, however. - Tracking Down Emotional Affairs

ServeNow 23:33, 23 February 2007 (UTC) servenow

[edit] This article needs to be overhauled

The tone of this entry is very one sided and not neutral in the least. It should be completely rewritten to reflect a neutral and formal tone, and not the tone of a self help book on emotional problems.

Dmaxen 21:31, 1 March 2007 (UTC)

[edit] Opiates / Opioids

Sexual chemistry refers to opiates released in the brain in response to emotional/sexual arousal. -- Opiates cannot be released in the brain. Opiates are derivatives of Opium, which is cultivated from poppies. opioids (as endogenous opioid peptides) however, can be released by the brain. There are three classes of endogenous opioid: dynorphins, enkephalins and endorphins, and it is highly likely that the relevance here is with endorphins. As there are known blockers (eg Naltrexone) for opioids, it would be interesting to attempt to block 'sexual chemistry' in controlled experiments, but I'm unaware of any research done there. This leads me to think this article is based on supposition, rather than fact. 81.6.250.44

[edit] Emotional Affairs Hurt

My spouse recently confessed to me that he was having an emotional affair (not "had" past tense, but is having.) He works with this woman. I have seen her. She is beautiful. He claims that he cannot control the way she makes him feel. He says that his feeling for her do not diminish how he feels for me, but then, 3 out of 5 nights (he works 5 days a week) he tells me, right before we go to bed, "I couldn't stop thinking about her today...I really tried, but I just can't." Sometimes he tells me in the morning, "I don't know what to do about these sexual dreams I am having about her." I suppose I should not feel cheated on or in pain about this “platonic” relationship. He has a good job. I do not want him to quit his job. Moreover, I am glad he is being open about it and telling me. Still at the same time, I am deeply wounded. I wish the pain would go away. I wish I were enough for him. I wish I could believe that once this little “problem” is over it would never happen again. Is it true we really cannot control or manage our feelings?